It’s easy for parents to identify a child’s physical needs: nutritious and balanced meals; adequate shelter and clothing; sufficient rest and physical activity; immunizations; a healthy living environment. However, a child’s mental and emotional needs may not be as obvious. Good mental health allows children to think clearly, develop socially, learn new skills, build self-esteem and develop a positive mental outlook.

Here are some of the basics for a child’s good mental health:

Give children unconditional love. Children need to know your love does not depend on their accomplishments.

Nurture children’s confidence and self-esteem. Praise and encourage them. Set realistic goals for them. Be honest about your mistakes. Avoid sarcasm.

Encourage children to play. Playtime is as important to a child’s development as food. Play helps children be creative, develop problem-solving skills and self-control, and learn how to get along with others.

Enroll children in an after-school activity, especially if they are otherwise home alone after school. This is a great way for kids to stay productive, learn something new, gain self-esteem and have something to look forward to during the week. It can also help strengthen social skills. Or check in on children after school if they are home alone. Children need to know that even if you’re not there physically, you’re thinking about them and interested in how they spent their day and how they’ll spend the rest of it.

Provide a safe and secure environment. Fear can be very real for a child. Try to find out what is frightening him or her. Be loving, patient and reassuring, not critical.

Give appropriate guidance and discipline when necessary. Be firm, but kind and realistic with your expectations. The goal is not to control the child, but to help him or her learn self-control.

Communicate. Make time each day after work and school to listen to your children and talk with them about what is happening in their lives. Share emotions and feelings, as well as talking about activities.

Get help. If you’re concerned about your child’s mental health, consult with teachers, a guidance counselor or another adult who may have information about his or her behavior. If you think there is a problem, seek professional help. Early identification and treatment can help children with mental health problems reach their full potential. 

If you would like more information on this topic, call the Mental Health Association at 314-773-1399 and ask for the free brochure titled, Children – What every child needs for good mental health. 

Education Department
Mental Health Association of Greater St. Louis
314-773-1399
www.mhagstl.org

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