In a divorce, partially due to their heightened emotional state, couples often find themselves disagreeing on many basic issues, such as parenting and finances. In part, this is due to lack of information and their being unfamiliar with and cautious of legal proceedings. Is there a way to make the process any easier.
 

Yes, a process known as Interdisciplinary Collaborative Law. This method allows a couple to assemble a “team” of professionals to help with every aspect of the divorce process in a strictly non-adversarial manner. A mental health professional and financial planner join two collaborative law attorneys, who guide the divorcing couple through the decisions that must be made.

The mental health professional can help individuals deal with the stages of grief which often accompany divorce and interfere with rational decision-making. This professional helps couples develop realistic expectations for the future. If children are involved, this professional’s knowledge regarding the children’s developmental needs is invaluable in devising appropriate parenting schedules.

The financial planner helps develop a clear picture of the parties’ financial situation so they can have realistic discussions regarding maintenance, child support and their cash flow needs. This expert can also assist in calculating the tax consequences of each party’s proposals, ensuring that the division of property is truly equitable. Using the resources of the team, the parties participate in four-way meetings in an attempt to negotiate a mutually agreeable settlement. The multifaceted aspects of divorce have too long left divorcing parties with feelings of anger and powerlessness.  The Interdisciplinary Collaborative Process allows couples to take greater control for resolution of issues in a cooperative manner with professional guidance.

Marta Pappa, P.C.
Attorney at Law

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Ellen Friesen
Executive Director

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